Sites migrated from Railo to Lucee server

Today Completely Free Dating are please to announce that we have successfully migrated all our sites from Railo to the new Lucee server.

Completely Free Dating would like to thank the Lucee development team and the Lucee Association Switzerland for making the migration so easy and for continuing to support the CFML community with an excellent high performance, light weight, open source CFML server.

“The migration from Railo to Lucee was so straight forward and took literally minutes. The Lucee development team have done a superb job at making the transition so easy. We are very much looking forward to the future of the Lucee server and the potential development directions that have been being discussed in the community Google Group are very exciting for us here at Completely Free Dating. We look forward to contributing as much as we can to this community led project. The future of Lucee looks very bright indeed.” said Completely Free Dating’s technical director Andrew Dixon.

All sites now on HTTPS

We are pleased to announce that all our sites are now operating on HTTPS to ensure secure communications between your web browser and our servers. This means that whichever of the Completely Free Dating websites you are using your data will be encrypted while in transit across the internet. When accessing the site you will now see the “padlock” in your browsers address bar tell you that your connection is secured.

If you have any questions, suggestions or feedback please feel free to email us at or leave us a review over at Review Centre.

More site updates coming soon.

Site Updates – November 2014

We have been making some updates to the site over the last couple of weeks and we wanted to share with everyone what these have been.

Move to HTTPS

We have move the whole of the Completely Free Dating UK site to the HTTPS protocol, which means that all communications between our servers and your device, be it a computer, tablet or mobile phone, is encrypted and secure. We will be moving the other country sites over to HTTPS as well in the coming month or so.

Improved Photo Uploader

We have changed the photo uploader to use a new, easier to use photo uploader that allows you to simply drag and drop your photos into the drop zone area or to click and then locate your photos. You can upload as many as you like and it will show the status of them as it uploads them to your profile. When the upload is complete a tick appears new to your photo. This works across all device types, however it is not supported by some older browsers like Internet Explorer 9 and below. Special thanks to the dropzonejs open source project for providing this excellent functionality.

General Bug Fixes and Stability Improvements

We have also applied a number of general bug fixes and stability improvements to the site recently to help give you the best experience possible.

More coming…

We have more site updates planned for the next weeks and months and we will of course keep you updated via this blog. If you have any questions, suggestions or feedback please feel free to email us at or leave us a review over at Review Centre.

New feature – Online

We have added the most requested feature to the site today, the ability to see if a user is online. This information is shown in several places, these include:

  • On the search results page
  • On the members profile
  • In a message conversation when viewing it.

This also gives you the ability to communicate in realtime with another member via the sites messaging system as you can see if they are online. When online they will receive an alert telling them they have a new message or if they are viewing the message conversation at the time, the conversation will update in realtime.

As always we are very happy to receive any feedback and improvement requests you have. Please simply email us at

New responsive design website now live

We are pleased to announce that the new Completely Free Dating website using the latest in responsive web design is now available for all four sites in the Completely Free Dating website family:

The new version of the website works seamlessly across a broad range of modern internet devices, from smart phones such as the iPhone and Samsung Galaxy S5, to tablets like the iPad and Kindle Fire to laptop and desktop computers. It is the same site on all devices and it automatically adjusts to fit the screen size perfectly, to give you the best user experience no matter where you are without losing any functionality.

To achieve this we have utilised the latest in web technologies including Railo, HTML5, CSS3jQuery, Bootstrap 3, Bootstrap Validator and GulpJS.

As always, we love feedback so please leave any comments you have below, send them to us via email at or leave a review of the site over at Review Centre.

There are also more exciting updates to the sites coming soon, so keep a look out for those as well.

Why won’t they commit to me?

You’re at that stage in your life where you feel ready to settle down with your partner and you truly believe you’ve found your soul mate, but for some reason your partner isn’t showing any sign of wanting to do the same. You might not be looking for marriage or children just yet, but it’s reassuring knowing that some day it could happen, but when you’re with a partner who appears unable to show any sign of commitment, it will certainly give you reason for reservation.

There are a number of possible reasons for their inability to commit to you, some of which may have very little to do with you personally. Knowing about their past relationships will give you an idea of why they’re avoiding anything more serious than casual dating. If they’ve been badly hurt in the past by an ex, or they went through a breakup just before getting together with you, it’s likely they’re still thinking about their ex and the relationship they had with them. Until the ex is out of their thoughts, the chances of your relationship moving forward isn’t likely as there will always be a comparison to your relationship and their past relationship which ended badly.

Your partner could just be enjoying the way your relationship is now and doesn’t feel the need to change something that is working well for them. They may find the balance between work, friends, hobbies, alone time and you just right, but to you it feels like you’re not an important part in their life. This doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you, it just means they see things differently and other parts of their life are important too. You may feel they’re being selfish, but as long as they’re giving you their full attention when you see them, it shows they’re still interested in you.

If your relationship has drastically changed from when you were first dating and they’re spending less and less time with you, then your partner could be someone who enjoys the chasing and flirting part of dating. After a while they get bored and distance themselves from you and look for excitement in finding someone new to date. If you notice their behaviour is strange at times and they tell unbelievable stories about where they’ve been or why they haven’t been in touch, then it’s possible they’re dating other people. They might admit it to your face implying they didn’t know you were being exclusive and they were simply keeping their options open, or they might deny seeing other people, but the doubt will already be in your mind. It’s unlikely you’ll manage to change someone like this, so don’t waste unnecessary time on him or her.

By mentioning marriage and having children in the future, you could have scared them off, even if you meant much further in the future. It’s possible they feel pressurised into a serious relationship and they react by not committing to you, which is the opposite effect to what you want. You might feel comfortable discussing these serious topics, but your partner obviously isn’t quite ready. Not everyone is prepared to take on responsibility for others, especially when it comes to being ill or emotions, so the thought of comforting you when you are sad, or looking after you when you’re ill could send your partner into panic mode, resulting in them distancing themselves from you.

If you have children from a previous relationship, it can unfortunately put some people off having a serious relationship with you. They may enjoy spending time with you and genuinely really like you, but the thought of taking on responsibility for your kids too, even if you don’t expect anything from them, can terrify them causing them to back off from you. Alternatively if your partner has children, it could be the case that they don’t want to settle down with you because they have other responsibilities that they put before their own relationship, but they enjoy spending time with you in a more casual level.

It could just be that as much as your partner likes being with you, you’re just not ‘the one’. They enjoy spending time with you and do genuinely like you, but they can’t see you having a future together, so for now they’re enjoying the company until they find what they’re looking for in a long-term partner. People do unfortunately get used in this way, especially if you are offering a physical relationship, which is often all some people are after, so make sure you’re not just being used in this way and end up wasting valuable time.

New look and messaging system

Completely Free Dating are pleased to announce the introduction of a new look and messaging system to all four Completely Free Dating websites.

New Look

The changes in the new look are quiet subtle, we have lightened up the background colour so it is not so overwhelming, rounded off some corners, added some drop shadows and changed to using features built into the web browser to achieve these, to help improve page load speed.

New Messaging System

We have made significant changes to the messaging system to help improve the user experience. The changes we have made are as follows:

New Inbox

The inbox has been completely re-built with all the features now in one place. From the inbox you can now view, reply, delete and archive conversations and switch to view the archived conversations. We have also added a new feature that allows you to report a conversation to the site administrator if you feel the content is inappropriate.

New Message Conversation View

We have revised the message conversation view to now show the message conversation much more clearly. The style is similar to a smart phone text message style display which a lot of users will be familiar with. Also the whole conversation is now shown without having to expand or collapse the messages, as was required previously.

Live Updates

The site now features “live updates” which will let you know straight away if you have a new message. These updates appear in several different places:

  1. In the “Members Menu” a number appears next to the “Inbox” option to tell you how many unread messages you have in your inbox. If you receive a new message while you are on the site this number will update automatically, even without reloading the page.
  2. If you are viewing the “inbox” and you receive a new message this will automatically show the unread conversation at the top of the inbox in “bold” (indicating unread) and will update even if you don’t reload the page.
  3. If you are viewing a conversation and a new message is added to that conversation it will automatically appear, creating the possibility to have a “live” chat with another member.

Future Updates

Following on from point 3 above, we will be adding some additional features very soon which will allow you to see which other members are currently “online” extending the possibility to have live chats. This update will land in the next couple of months so keep an eye on the blog for details.


As always we welcome your comments and views on the latest updates, please leave a comment here or via our Facebook page.

Update to photo adding process

We have just release an update to the site that we are quiet excited about. This update is to the photo adding part of the account settings. We have made two major changes to this. Firstly, the “upload” option has been greatly improved, both for the user and on the server side to improve the experience of uploading photos to profile. Secondly (and most excitingly) we have added a new options to get photos on your profile, the “Get from Facebook” option. To use this option, simply click the option and follow the instructions, it very simply.

If you have any problems or questions please email us at